bishopinblue

a-username-i-do-not-care

Reblog if you believe phone call anxiety is real and it isn’t childish bad behavior.

Trying to prove a point to this job helper.

xubbs

Phone calls can be harder on your anxiety bc you cant pick up on the other persons behavioral cues as you talk with them

d3viantvanguard

^^^^

After 10+ years of psychotherapy, almost all of my social anxiety triggers are now at a manageable level—even academic public speaking, which was my #1 worst trigger for most of my life—except for my phone anxiety. It’s literally the one and only thing I’ve never been able to significantly improve.

I have to talk the whole conversation through with my friends beforehand.

I have to get explicit confirmation from my friends that “yes, you really need to ring that person right now”.

I have to write scripts.

I have to take anti-anxiety meds, or get drunk.

I only ever ring someone as the very last resort, when all other methods are unavailable.

I hyperventilate and cry afterwards.

I’m also a 28-year-old scientist with three degrees and a teaching position. I’m normally a logical (albeit emotional) person. But anxiety is not logical.

Anxiety is due to inability to correctly perceive threats—more specifically, due to both increased expectation and increased frequency of false recognition of threats in response to neutral stimuli (this is called “pessimistic bias”). Social anxiety simply means that this inability to correctly perceive threats is specific to social interactions, rather than generalised to all aspects of life. (For example, a resting facial expression or lack of verbal acknowledgement is more likely to be perceived as anger, disgust or rejection by a socially anxious person than a neurotypical person. But a socially anxious person is not particularly more likely to worry throughout the day that they’ve left their stove on.)

Therefore, socially anxious people learn to cope with this bias by becoming hypervigilant to social cues such as posture, hand gestures, nodding, eye contact, eyebrow position, mouth tightness, tone of voice, talking speed etc., and then using all the available information to attempt to be logical and “talk down the anxiety”. We also learn to be high self-monitors, which means that we closely observe our audience and constantly (subconsciously) monitor their responses in order to ensure that they accept us and deem us “appropriate”.

But non-verbal social cues aren’t available during phone calls!

There isn’t any body language to read, or eyes to look into. You can’t monitor your audience for approval. They don’t follow the script you prepared. All you have is their voice, which is usually masked (everyone seems to have a “phone voice”, “customer service voice” or “professional voice”) and distorted by the phone and is therefore useless. All of a sudden you’re back to relying on a single neutral stimulus, and the pessimistic bias kicks in, and you start to panic because you’re not getting constant feedback.

It’s a Recognised Psychological Thing™.

Phone anxiety (actually, phone phobia) is one of the most common, most recognised and most treated phobias in the world. Social anxiety—of which phone phobia is an extremely prevalent trigger—is one of the most common, most recognised and most treated anxiety disorders in the world.

It’s most definitely real, most definitely not “childish”, and you’re not alone.

artistmeli

I have this, it is definitely real.

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passionpeachy

raymonholt

Posts like “reblog if you’re not (some disgusting group of people)” or “reblog if you think ABC” and comments like “I can’t believe only x/y followers reblog it” or “I don’t care about your Blog’s aesthetic if you don’t reblog this you’re an asshole” should stay in 2018. Stop forcing people into giving you notes. Stop thinking it’s helpful. Stop think the people who unfollowed you were those the post referred to. They were probably tired of that bullshit and the feeling of being forced to prove they’re not the scums of the earth. I’m done with this bullshit.

raymonholt

Know what? I’m not done.

A Blog’s “aesthetic” is what the Blog’s runner is most comfortable with, be it text or image only, or more than one type of posts.

It’s the content they choose to view when they log into their account, open the app, whatever. It’s their tagging system to find that one ask that always makes them smile. Or that video that makes their day bearable.

No one is under any obligation to prove themselves via a “reblog if” post. No one is a scum if they don’t reblog a “if you don’t reblog this” post.

“unfollow me if” posts might as well make me unfollow someone. Comments like “two unfollowed me after I reblogged this” do nothing, either, because small chance it was actually someone the post referred to. It might be by mistake, it might be tum*lr it might be someone who felt too obligated and decided to unfollow just because.

Some people come here to fucking relax and interact with friends, read stories/jokes, view gifs/moodboards/aesthetics/graphics, watch videos, and really just go to their sanctuary.

It’s guilt-tripping and it’s useless.

cooper-klebba

@goopy-amethyst

@yay855

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suicunesrider

wishuponakiss

I can’t believe Spider-Man defeated not one but TWO Disney films and grabbed the Golden Globe

Oh my goodness I’m so happy *ugly sobbing*

rootbeergoddess

People don’t understand why this is a big deal.

Disney has a stranglehold on animation. Ya’ll remember when Frozen came out? Well when it won the Oscar for best-animated film, it was revealed that the people voting didn’t watch any of the other films. Frozen only won because of it’s brand name. For Spiderverse to defeat two Disney films is big because not only does it prove that animated movies feature people of color can be successful but it’s also showing that other animation companies have a chance.

suicunesrider

Also, because people keep saying this: Disney only owns the MCU Spider-Man movies. Spiderverse is NOT a Disney film, it is a Sony film.

And hey, remember how the Oscars snubbed the Lego movie, and then ignored How To Train Your Dragon 2, Song of the Sea, and the Tale of Princess Kaguya, just so they could give the Oscar to Disney’s Big Hero 6?

Yeah, this really HAS been a problem.

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nugromancer

el-cavernariogalindo

😳😳 😫😫😢😢🤧

cavernariog

idonotraisecain

As an autistic boy, I approve.

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shouty-y

straightboyfriend

some of you need to learn when it’s appropriate to call someone out & when it’s appropriate to talk to someone privately on the matter. call out posts are for genuinely dangerous people that should be stayed away from, not for petty drama that can be settled over DMs.

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queenoftheantz

Todays doodles are Myras personal Horse Acting Guide! 🐴

DISCLAIMER: im not a horse expert, but i’ve been hobby riding for 13 years and read some books through the years, so it’s just my personal experience. I dont know everything and people have different ways!

cute animals helpful

stcyan

yesimalittlestitious

Sony Animation went from this

to this

Just after a year

goryghostieguts

Technically not in a year development for movies takes more like 5 years. Development for Into the spider-verse started around 2014. While The Emoji Movie was in development around the same time. They were technically developed together but what a lot of people tend to lack remembering is that they are different teams.

The movies may belong to the studio but there are tons of people working there. All that Sony from the top really does is approve which projects they are going to fund.

We’re judging a whole animation and distribution center on something not everyone works on. It’s not improvement it’s just two entirely different teams working on different stories.

I think the lack of understanding how the industry actually works hurts a lot of animators in the end because then a project isn’t associated with a team, but a company. And I think it should be something that’s highlighted when talking about animation.

squigglydigglydoo

Not to mention, most of the time, these studios are commissioned to do their films by outside studios, and by various people who pitch the original ideas. The Spider-Verse film was created by a team at Sony under the patronage of Marvel, for instance.

Please don’t make the mistake of assuming a studio is one singular entity that makes a single kind of thing – studios employ a LOT of people, and in order to afford to pay these people and secure a profit, they must also be working on several concurrent projects, often of vastly different styles.

Source: yesimalittlestitious animation

braunerbear

bee-pd

loved one: sorry, i can’t hang out! i have plans with other people

my hellbrain’s instincts: wow you love them more tha-

me, ignoring her and working on being a better person: that’s okay! i hope you have fun! can we hang out some other time?

howilearnedtocope

I love this bc it’s a little snapshot of what the intermediate stage of recovery/treatment/growth can look like.

It might not be what you expect. I think people want to stop having those thoughts immediately, and if they can’t they feel that they’ve failed. But that’s not true! Challenging those old thought patterns is exactly what recovery looks like

Source: bee-pd nice

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Reblog if you believe phone call anxiety is real and it isn’t childish bad behavior.